Who Pays for What?

When it comes to weddings there are some aspects of the wedding that can cause some additional stress on the Bride and Groom and what is expected from their families. One of the first items I tell all to discuss with their families is money. You ( Bride and Groom to be) cannot expect your friends and family to shell out thousands of dollars for your wedding without first discussing with them. Many people feel uncomfortable discussing these topics but when wedding planning starts these talks are needed so that you, your family and friends do not go into debt to make your dream come true.

Below is a traditional list of who pays for what. Always remember these items are not set in stone, so discussing options with each group is the proper thing to do.


  • Grooms Ring
  • Wedding gift for the Groom
  • Gifts for the bridesmaids
  • Bridal party luncheon (Meet and Greets for the party is a must!)
  • Transportation for bridal party to wedding


  • Engagement Ring and Brides wedding ring
  • Wedding gift for the bride
  • Gifts for the groomsmen
  • Marriage license
  • Officiant’s fee
  • Wedding wear
  • Honeymoon
  • Boutonnieres for the groomsmen, father, grandfathers
  • Bridal bouquet
  • Corsages for mothers & grandmothers
  • Transportation for groomsmen to wedding

Bride’s Family

  • Engagement party
  • Invites
  • Wedding planner or coordinator
  • Wedding dress
  • Reception
  • Vendors
  • Ceremony
  • Their own attire
  • Gifts for the couple

Grooms Family

  • Rehearsal Dinner
  • Alcohol at the reception (optional)
  • Their own attire
  • Gifts for the couple

Wedding Party

  • Their own attire
  • Best Man & Groomsmen host the bachelor party
  • Maid (Matron) of Honor & Bridesmaids host the wedding shower and/or bachelorette party
  • Gifts for the couple

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